20 Years Married! It’s possible still… Tony’s Blog
Tuesday, August 9th, 2011
“My how time flies.” “Where does the time go?” There are plenty of sayings about time & how it passes so quickly.
It’s the craziest thing to not really feel that much older but know, judging by how you look in the mirror or the world around you, that time has definitely passed.
Today I celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary with Candy. When we got married in 1991 (at 22) we were just a couple dumb kids. I know many of our friends (even some in attendance at the nuptials) didn’t think we’d make it. We were too young, hadn’t spent enough time together, etc. I guess we felt like most couples who take that leap. We loved each other & that seemed like enough. Over the years I’ve learned that love is important but I don’t think it’s enough. Patience, hard work, humor, forgiveness, friendship. These are just a few of the other ingredients in what I believe is a necessary recipe for a lasting marriage.
Did we start out like a fairy tale? No way. Has it been smooth sailing all the way? Are you kidding? Did we come close to the brink of losing it a few times? Unfortunately, yes. But through it all we kept it together. We worked at it. Staying married is no easy feat. We were so lucky to have role models like our parents. My folks certainly had their down times but they didn’t throw up their hands & throw in the towel when it got tough. They worked through the low times & were married til “death did they part.” Candy’s parents are so in love it’s a little intimidating sometimes.
We have three beautiful, though far from perfect, children. It’s a pretty great feeling to know we’ll leave behind 3 people who can be better than us; who can show that we did something pretty great for a pretty long time. What will the next 20 bring? I don’t know, but I know that if we have as much fun as we’ve had the first 20, it’s going to be a hell of a ride.



























